Fall Fun Series: To thine own self be thankful

20171120_103622Today’s prompt idea was generated by Sandra, from Finger Candy, blogger from the Northern wilds (of cosmopolitan Ontario). Leave it to a Canadian to turn the established notion of gratitude upside down and challenge us FFSers to thank ourselves this Thanksgiving. Quite honestly, this one made me a little anxious. Not that I’m reluctant to pat myself on the back on occasion, or put it into writing (I am a blogger) it’s only that I couldn’t think of a deserving reason to do so. As I began to examine the past year however, I discovered I have much to be thankful for (even to myself):

  • Especially starting with the 2016-17 season, I’m grateful for becoming a better Speech coach. Though my hours are limited and the guidance my husband provides can’t be duplicated, I have become more open, available, accepting, understanding, demanding of, and dependable for our team. I can now say it and truly feel in my heart, I am a coach. A coach to 20 teenagers no less, with all of their flaws, weaknesses, opinions and brilliance. It is the most worthwhile activity I do and anything worth doing is worth doing well, with my whole heart. I didn’t fully realize it until the last couple years, but I have relied on it with this year’s distinctly challenging team.

 Just last night at a fundraiser (oh yes, held the evening before Thanksgiving), I was reminded of my influence. A member who graduated last year came out to support the team, I hadn’t see her since summer and after big hugs and catching up, she said “I have a picture of you on my college dorm wall, Mrs. S!” My heart was full.

  • I’m thankful I put on my adult planning pants for dreaming and scheming up a friends’ trip to New York City. And I actually carried it out! I wouldn’t have had the confidence to do it 10 years ago (one of the benefits of turning 40, you get stuff done). Coordinating my first Air BnB stay, and a possibly tricky mid-trip move, snagging a crazy good deal on bus fare and not freaking out during an even crazier bus trip. I brought together a group of far-apart friends, some who’d never met, navigated the insanity of NYC with confidence (mostly), and created some kick-ass memories with wonderful friends, yay to me!


  • I’m thanking myself for starting a garden, along with my husband who did the heavy lifting. I realize humans have done it since evolving from hunter-gatherers to an agricultural society, but this was the first time we ever have. It was incredibly rewarding transforming a former sink-hole into a vegetable patch, albeit a muddy one. Just this month I planted strawberries, garlic and rosemary for next year, I like having a lil Spring bounty to look forward to.
  • Lastly, a harder to define thankfulness: continuing to become a more inclusive, less exclusive person. As an introvert and a pessimist, I can be unbearable even to myself. Each year, I’m becoming less rigid, more open and vulnerable to life. Not always easy, but letting go of the insignificant, petty details and even those I once deemed important has led me to a freer outlook. I will try to remember this reflection as I’m traveling to and from Thanksgiving gatherings today while grinning and bearing all that the holiday entails.

Happy Thanksgiving wishes to my friends and family. A big thank you to my friend, Sandra, for reminding us to take a moment to show ourselves a little gratitude too. I think everyone should do it. Who knows? Thank Yourself could become this year’s Treat Yo’ self! What do you thank yourself for today?

Amanda at Thrifty Polished

Angela at Angela Kay

Julie at The Redolent Mermaid

Michelle at Melting With Michelle

Sandra at Finger Candy


3 thoughts on “Fall Fun Series: To thine own self be thankful

  1. I maintain that none of us are kind enough to ourselves. You don’t need to go overboard, spend every dollar, minute and thought you have strictly on yourself, but we all have a tendency to run around acting like things just happen to us, when in reality, it’s a little more directed than that. And we should be kind enough to ourselves to realize when we’ve done a good job, AND to thank ourselves for it. But you are most welcome for the suggestion of the challenge prompt – I was curious to see what awesome things my friends had up their sleeves. And I’m thankful I have such excellent taste in friends. 🙂

    And your post is exactly what I was hoping it would be! Everything you listed is amazing. Your trip to NYC? How great does it feel when you navigate something like that well (or as well as you can)? It’s such an amazing feeling, like “Check out my competency!” I never feel more sure of myself than when I’m travelling, because you kind of have to be – practically everything you do requires you to engage with new people, surroundings and circumstances. You can’t hide and you have to take responsibility for so much you normally might put in cruise control. You obviously felt fantastic, and your trip sounded so amazingly fun.

    Mrs. S?! I love it, I love it so much. That’s how I used to refer to my dance teacher. What a wonderful thing for your former student to say, and what a special feeling, too – you made a difference! It’s one of those trite teacher things that’s actually not the least bit trite. Well done to you.

    And three cheers to getting out more, even if that getting out is just getting out of your own skin for a bit. I was a stone cold sour puss for so many years there, and I don’t really know to what end. Inertia, I guess – a body at rest is just going to stay that way. It feels better just TRYING, doesn’t it?


    1. Visiting with those former speechies gets me verklempt but reminds me it’s so worth it, I’m honored to be able to be part of their lives, successes and failures.
      I guess it turned out I was pretty proud of my NYC planning skills, next time I’ll visit with my husband and assign him some of the duties, he loves to create an itinerary like it’s his job.

      It does feel better. I tend to go wildly extreme with my gettin’ out urges. Occasionally, I will propose moving to Alaska to live on the frontier to my husband, abandoning our entire way of life; other times, you couldn’t pay me to leave the couch.
      Also, your prompts are always interesting and cut right to the heart of the responses, if we are willing to go there.


      1. Ooh, Alaska…that’s a very good, frontier-ish place to live. I actually have family in Alaska. Big outdoor types. I think you have to be.

        I’ve often entertained the notion of throwing off the shackles of life and, I dunno, moving somewhere completely foreign and living a by-the-seat-of-my-pants, nomadic lifestyle. But that is ultimately just not me – it’s attractive as a daydream, but actually contemplating something like that gets me quite panickey. There has to be a happy medium!


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